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"You're always right"
"Yes, I am"
"No, you think you are always right but you're not"
"No, I am always right"
And so has gone the conversation with just about every girlfriend I have ever had. But what makes me so sure that I am always right?
Well often I think it starts with most women think and react emotionally to the current situation and a major rule in business and negotiations is to never discuss a deal when you are emotional or emotionally attached because you will lose.
Having said that many of todays men are even more emotional than women. (some women will hate me for that statement but it is true, after all you have hormonal swings each month which bring emotional changes, sometimes profound emotional changes).
My girlfriends have always been more emotional than I at any rate, maybe I should just stick with that. Anyway that is one of the reasons I was with them, I need a balance to my serious side.
So back to being always right.
When it comes down to a discussion I am always right when I make a choice as I have a master plan, a 5 year plan, and a life plan. I know what I want from life, I know what I want from my career, and I know what I want from my girlfriend (should I have one) and it isn't some vague "I'll work until I am sixty then 'retire' on Government handouts (the retirement funds disappeared with Enron and others) and live in an old people's home slowly decaying until I manage to pass away".
So you see I am "always right" because I am working towards a larger goal. I make decisions based upon them furthering my future ambitions, not upon how I feel in that moment. Though I have been know to commit some big career f**ck ups by following my heart on several occasions:
The first time I went to America to see WCW (now part of WWE) wrestling I found out the gym that the wrestlers trained at in Atlanta, Georgia while I was visiting the Powerplant training center. It was Lee Haney's gym, multiple winner of the prestigious Bodybuilding top title of Mr Olympia and the 2nd most famous bodybuilder of that time (second only to Arnold). Instead I returned to Australia to a girlfriend who promised to help me financially so I could concetrate on my training. Needless to say no financial help came of this promise and that broken promise destroyed the relationship as I could no longer trust her.
Smart aren't I? Was I always right? No not this time but my plan at that time involved a girlfriend with a show business background and she'd been a Las Vegas dancer...
That was 9 years ago. Imagine where I would be if I had stayed in America and trained with Lee Haney and all the top wrestlers and gotten to know them.... it's not what you know but who you know and an introduction from some of the star wrestlers would have been a much better approach than colding calling by walking in off the street like I did.
Whose fault was it? Hers? No. It was my choice, my decision and my fault if you can be faulted for loving someone. I should have been more mature and followed my dream. Once you have money and fame girls tend to be attracted anyway, even current girlfriends feel better about you.
The other reason I hear this "you are always right" as a recurring argument is because I am attracted to strong willed women and of course they are attracted to me, which means we clash, which means neither of us want to give up our longer term ambitions and so we fight.
Now are you always right? If so why?
My girlfriends hate it when I give them a logical, cold answer which demonstrates that I really do think that I am always right.
To be truthful I am not always right but overall it I am heading in the right direction as I have my eye on the end goal, and this is better than floating about on a sea of emotions without a plan.
I would like to finish with a sincere quote from my last girlfriend "You know everything!", yet still she did not believe that I was always right.
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