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Being very tall I am often asked if it is hard to get a girlfriend.
Yes it is. It is very hard to get 'A' girlfriend with so many offers.
Why
would I not have a girlfriend if I wanted? I remember at school being
teased about my height and that I would never get a girlfriend... then
basketball became very popular where I lived... and so did basketball players...
Shortly after I discovered that height is a turn on for many (most) girls, and my days of being single were over...
Height is a small overall part of a relationship but I can tell you now if you are fit, presentable and look approachable and you are tall you are in dating heaven.
Even if girls say they don't like tall / big guys I always find this is due to them thinking they cannot have so their defences make up an excuse so they don't feel rejected. True.
As a tall guy I used to be very shy and introverted, this wasn't doing me any good. About 17 I realised I was going to be the center of attention where ever I went so I may as well deal with it - and if I was going to deal with it I may as well capitalise on it - Instant Extrovert.
Be Handsome
I got a super trendy haircut, got stylish clothes, actually I made my own as back then it was impossible to get ripped jeans and the rock stars were just started into torn knees and the Pop stars were just going Rap so the appropriate styles were not available commercially. Take a pair of baggy Jeans, a bucket of bleach, a razor and a stiff bristled brush - et voila - style in the late 80's.
Anyway get a decent haircut and some recent release clothes and drop your shyness. Everyone is looking at you. That means every girl in the place is looking at you at some point. Get noticed - the most important law in advertising.
Pay for good shoes, pay a lot for good shoes, believe me on this point. It matters - a lot.
Good shoes in a pair of jeans and a clean or stylish t-shirt and you look good, a tuxedo and scruffy sneakers (runners) and you look crap. Get good shoes.
Be Friendly and Approachable
Smile, make eye contact with people and say hello, if you like a girl and she looks at you (and she will) don't look away. Smile big and say hello. Or if she looks at you in 'that' way be brazen - I have met girls across the room and instantly demanded "Come here" (with a big smile on my face) and pointed the a place right in front of me - it worked. This won't work for everyone you want to meet but the point is you can do anything and get away with pretty much anything if you do it properly... ie 1/2 as a joke so people don't get offended. Play the joker, but not stupid.
Don't hang around the walls. Get in the middle of it. If I am in a club I often walk around, have a look and meet as many people as possible, we call it doing laps. Just walk around all night and meet people, talk to many people.
If you want to meet a girl don't just build up courage then try with one girl, and hit on her. Just meet people. Talk to many people. If you like a girl and stop and chat for a bit then move on she'll notice you talking to other people too - you'll look popular and not like a creep out to do her for one night.
Also why the heck would you try and choose a partner just from a casual look from the other side of the room. Talk to people, gauge their personalities, see how you interact. The girls you like go back and talk again, maybe ask to swap numbers and catch up for lunch.
Maybe she'll grab your hand and ask you to go with her. Don't be shy if you really like her. You never know what's going to happen in the big wide world.
Be Proud Of Your Height Stand up tall, don't slouch, don't stoop, stand up straight with confidence.
Confidence wins friends (and lovers).
Be proud of who you are - I am telling you the truth when I say that girls like tall men. Keep this in mind. Show it.
Get Fit
Take up sport or go to the gym and get fit. You do not have to be Mr Universe, just get fit, build an athletic physique. Drop any excess fat - it is not attractive to anyone.
Eat healthy clean foods. If it is packaged you probably should not be eating it.
This builds your self confidence tremendously. Until you do it you cannot believe the difference it makes to the way you feel about yourself.
Also when you are fit and carrying little fat your body operates better, you have more stamina ;) and you generally feel better overall. Your body releases hormones better and excercise releases endorphins - these are your natural feel good chemicals. Taking the drug Ecstacy dumps these natural chemicals into your blood stream making you feel on top of the world.
Natural Ecstasy
That's right Ecstasy just causes your body to dump it's reserves of it's own natural chemicals into your bloodstream - the chemicals are all right there in your body to start with.
Regular exercise also causes release of these chemicals - it is also known as "Runners High". Being in love also releases similar chemicals, as does sex.
Tap into this reserve of feel good chemicals every day with a healthy hit of exercise.
"Disclaimer"
I am speaking purely from experience and in generalities here. If you read this and are offended then I have probably hit a raw nerve - too close to the truth maybe?
I am writing this for all the tall kids out there who search on Google for this sort of information and end up on my page.
Being tall by itself is not goping to get you a partner. Confidence, humour, well groomed, combined with height and you'll never be short a partner.
Shallow, lame and skin deep? No - if you think like this then you are on the defensive.
What do you want in a partner?
I'll tell you what I find attractive. Successful, beautiful, dressed appropriately, happy, fun, cute, healthy, physically fit - if that's what I want why would I not do my best to deliver a comparable package?
Personal Experiences
I will write a few of these in point form without getting into too many details:
- One club I was at was a rainy sunday, not many people present though I was talking to a girl and she asked if I would pick her up and hug her - I did - 2 other girls from different groups came running over and lined up behind her.
- Walking around a bar with a mate this short, pretty girl came running at me full speed and jumped into my arms. She kissed me on the cheek said hello, come and talk to me later. Then hopped down. My mate said "Who is that?" My reply "I don't know... yet."
- 3 nights ago I was talking to one lady, another I knew was dancing provocatively at me, and the girl behind that one was winking at me.
- Another time 2 girls whom I had chatted with earlier came up at the end of the night and said we are going home now - would you like to come with us?
- At a group interview during the only time I have had a job, we were asked why we wanted to work in the new section. One guy answered so I can sip Pina Colardas by the pool with a hot blonde girl with the extra pay. My turn was next and my (truthful) answer was - Well I spent the last 2 years doing exactly that so I thought it was time that I actually got a job, ohh, except of course, we drank champagne.
- I was at my local pub with another tall friend, I looked across the room and saw this beautiful blond girl looking straight into my eyes with a huge smile, I said hello and headed straight over. Instantly we held hands and did so for the rest of the night. She is still one of my closest friends to this day.
So HA! To all those idiots at school who gave me crap for my height. How is your life now? I heard one is a mechanic, one works on the public roads, another is unemployed, another sells pot for a living - all huge successes.
But back to the moral of the story.
Value for value. I give as much as I expect to get. And I therefore get. You can too, don't sell yourself short - be who you are, let the real you out of the bag and have fun. Being tall is a great advantage.
Life is only serious if you make it that way.
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